Mentoring
Mentoring by Marcia Murphy
Life can be easier if we learn to see with new eyes!
With mentoring skills I acquired at the world renowned Option Institute I help people to discover the beliefs behind unhappiness in their life. It is also a very effective process to bring clarity to a situation before making a decision.
It is easy to forget that everything we think, feel and do is affected by our beliefs. Most people are not aware of the beliefs operating behind the discomforting situations in daily life, and without this awareness, it is impossible to change our feelings and behaviors toward ourselves and others. Some beliefs are formed in childhood, then slip beneath the surface of our consciousness where they continue to operate today.
AS A MENTOR, HOW CAN I HELP YOU TOWARD YOUR DESIRE FOR MORE HAPPINESS AND CLARITY IN YOUR LIFE?
First, by listening and being totally present with you as you explore whatever is keeping you unhappy or “stuck” in your life. Have you ever had the experience of sharing something that’s important to you with someone who listens half-heartedly and offers a wealth of well-intentioned advice, when all you wanted was for someone to “be there”, listen and care. If so, this process will be a refreshing change. Another valuable quality of Option mentors is a non-judgmental attitude. No critical or directive remarks to cloud your mind and heart as you share, and no interruptions. As a mentor I also believe that you are your own best expert and have all your own answers. The mentoring process merely helps you to access them.
WHO MIGHT FIND AN OPTION MENTOR SESSION USEFUL?
Anyone who is experiencing some emotion creating fear or stress in their life. It could involve a person or situation which feels overwhelming or without resolution. It could be a longstanding concern or a recent happening which has caused lingering discomfort. It is also useful when you want to make a decision and the answer appears elusive. Some people find it helpful to speak out loud to an impartial party and in the process of doing so, come to a conclusion they couldn’t reach in the quiet of their own thoughts.
WHY I BELIEVE IN THIS MENTORING PROCESS
In my three years of mentoring at the Institute, I had the privilege of observing many people make life-altering changes simply by discovering a core belief of which they were unaware and choosing to change their thinking about themselves and others. I was amazed at the number of people who came simply seeking to be heard. Many told me they had no one to listen to them and as a result they felt so alone in their life. Or if they did choose to share themselves with a loved one or friend, they felt judged.
I have also seen the results of this process in my own life, using it daily to explore personal issues contributing to decreased immune function responsible for a major chronic illness. On more than one occasion I stopped reacting to chemicals in my environment after discovering a limiting belief and dropping it.